Oftentimes, the most intelligent, loving, and adaptable human beings of all are the ones who have persevered through misery, defeat, and heartbreak. Making it through—and past—these things makes people appreciate the sensitivity of life, and to more deeply comprehend it as a result. Even though humans can feel stuck or lost in life, they must be able to realize the intelligence that they actually possess, and they must be able to realize that their struggles will strengthen them in the end. Please read the list below to ensure that you haven’t missed out on any often forgotten truths that will allow you to make better decisions and fully channel your strength.
#1: Pain enables human beings to grow.
Even though many people are taught early on that pain is harmful, humans cannot properly live through life if they are afraid of facing—and experiencing—their true feelings. Pain is often capable of waking human beings up to reality, and of teaching them how to better cope with reality in the future.
#2: Proper mindset is critical.
We need to recognize that ups and downs are simply part of life, and part of being human. What’s more, we need to realize that life is a gift: every day, hour, minute, and second. Human beings must understand spirituality in order to understand that life is never hopeless, and that the world can be just as positive and inspiring as it can be negative and depressing.
#3: Worst case scenarios rarely materialize.
Many times, fear is only as strong as you allow it to be, and you are in control of your circumstances to far greater degrees than you initially realize. Don’t allow your fear of the situation to make the situation worse; be courageous (if it is safe to do so), and move forward instead of standing still—take action instead of waiting.
#4: Experience enables human beings to grow.
Aside from the experience of pain, virtually all other experiences can allow humans to grow if they overcome them with a positive attitude and an open mind. Experiences never usually occur as they are planned, so experiencing normally means adapting—and adapting is invaluable life experience. If you can see that all past experiences better prepare you for virtually all present and future experiences, then you’ve already grown significantly.
#5: Take responsibility in order to cause effective change.
Sigmund Freud argues that, “Most people do not really want freedom, because freedom involves responsibility, and most people are frightened of responsibility.” If you blame others, then you can’t take responsibility, and if you can’t take responsibility—then you can’t experience genuine happiness. Once you start taking responsibility for your own happiness in particular, it’s inevitable that you will experience more happiness overall.
#6: Focus on the present.
You can’t change the past, the future is constantly becoming the present, and present actions greatly impact future outcomes: if you do the math, it adds-up to focusing on the present being by far the best strategy to employ. Many people live life believing that true happiness will be coming in the future soon, but many of these people often suddenly shift their belief to the idea that their best moments are already in the past. The present is the Goldilocks zone in between these two extremes.
#7: Keep a positive—and grateful—perspective.
No matter how bad things are, it’s a virtual certainty that there are countless other human beings experiencing something far worse at the exact same time, and countless human beings will experience far worse things in the future as well. A wise person once said that that it’s not happiness that makes us thankful to be alive; it’s thankfulness that makes us happy to be alive.
#8: Patience is not just a virtue—it’s a life necessity.
Keep in mind that patience is not about waiting; rather, it’s about the ability to maintain a positive attitude while striving toward what you desire or believe in. Patience allows you to stay focused, confident, and diligent. Besides, lasting happiness is far more satisfying than instant gratification in the long-term.
#9: Don’t look for validation from other people.
Although it’s easy to forget, human beings do not exist to live up to the expectations of others, so no human being should judge themselves based on other people’s expectations or examinations. Life success equates to spending your life happy in the ways you think best—not spending your life making other people as happy as possible. Realize that you are valuable because you are alive, and that the purpose of life is to live.
#10: You’re never alone.
Virtually all human beings struggle from time to time, so you’re not alone when you’re going through difficult or seemingly impossible times. People are in life together, so there’s no shame in leaning on someone else or in allowing someone else to lean on you when they happen to be on the struggling side of the spectrum.
#11: Always be conscious of your attitude and emotions.
“Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude.”—Denis Waitley
#12: Care and maintain your inner-self as much as your outer-self.
“Take care of your inner, spiritual beauty. That will reflect in your face.”—Dolores del Rio
#13: Be ambitious and persevere.
“Keep your feet on the ground, but let your heart soar as high as it will. Refuse to be average or to surrender to the chill of your spiritual environment.”—Arthur Helps
#14: Workout your mind and your soul as much as your physical body.
“The key to success is to keep growing in all areas of life—mental, emotional, spiritual, as well as physical.”—Julius Erving
#15: Study spiritualness in conjunction with science.
“Our scientific power has outrun our spiritual power. We have guided missiles and misguided men.”—Martin Luther King, Jr.
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