Human beings who possess INFJ characteristics are usually extremely complex individuals; according to the Myers-Briggs classification of personalities, INFJ personalities represent Introversion, Intuition, Felling, and Judging, and they “seek meaning and connection in ideas, relationships, and material possessions.” As such, these individuals are insightful and they are deeply interested in learning what fascinates people other than themselves.
What’s more, INFJ personalities tend to result in highly organized and assertive human beings in general. However, it’s easy to see how each individual person with the INFJ personality trait would still be incredibly unique, because many of the characteristics described above are at least somewhat conflicting to say the least. Please read the list below to gain a deeper comprehension of these paradoxes.
#1: They’re loners who desire to interact with other individuals.
Even though INFJs are generally introverted, they also feel the need to connect with other people emotionally—which is pretty difficult to do when you’re alone (although perhaps not impossible). Sometimes INFJs can balance these desires by being in a romantic relationship but also by taking the time and space alone that they require whenever it becomes necessary.
#2: They’re light-hearted perfectionists.
INFJs are highly intuitive, but they’re also judgemental; as a result of this conflict, they strive for an ideal balance of spontaneity and order (which is also somewhat paradoxical).
#3: They’re rationally artistic.
INFJs are definitely very creative, but they’re also extremely rational as well. More specifically, INFJs will likely find it easier to succeed and excel by realizing or creating their personal projects independently, but they’ll be happy to consider whether or not the work could be improved once it has taken form.
#4: They’re a remarkable combination of organized chaos.
INFJs like to keep a clean and organized environment, but (as discussed) they also want to experiment with new uses for space and time—and sometimes that gets (or at least looks) messy. Moreover, they’ll have the urge to reorganize or re-situate before too long anyway, so it really is impossible for many things to stay in the same place or look the same way for very long.
#5: They’ll stand-up for others more frequently than they’ll stand-up for themselves.
It’s never easy for an INJF to experience pain whether it’s their own pain or someone else’s, but they’re much more likely to bear their own suffering in silence than they are to allow someone else to suffer with buried negative emotions.
#6: They can be quite philosophical, but they can also be quite grounded.
INFJs always want to be talking about something that is meaningful and insightful, but they’ll often push the boundaries between science and science fiction in order to brainstorm global-sized ideas that could save the world—and humanity. INFJs tend to be more spiritual than most other individuals are, and they also tend to connect with nature more closely and more thoroughly.
#7: They can feel like they don’t quite belong, but they can also feel entirely at home.
Sometimes the world can seem so messed-up that INFJs can’t understand how any human being would feel right living the way humanity as a whole does, but they also observe and learn about all of the unbelievably positive and loving acts of humanity—which makes them feel like they might have been born on the right planet after all.
#8: They desire to connect with pure emotion, but sometimes they can’t resist connecting verbally when emotional connections are taking place in silence.
“Communication—the human connection—is the key to personal and career success.”—Paul J. Meyer
#9: They value physical and sexual attraction very much, but they also extremely value personality and intelligence.
“I don’t have a type. But one thing I can say from my dating experience is that a physical attraction will only take you so far. So you definitely have to have a strong intellectual connection as well.”—Jesse Metcalfe
#10: They want to be vulnerable in order to connect better, but they must convey strength in order to empathize instead of sympathize.
“Vulnerability is the birthplace of connection and the path to the feeling of worthiness. If it doesn’t feel vulnerable, the sharing is probably not constructive.”—Brene Brown
#11: They desire committed romantic relationships, but they also desire to intimately connect with other human beings.
“The business of business is relationships; the business of life is human connection.”—Robin S. Sharma
#12: They love humanity more than words can convey, but they are also in love with nature—and they realize how cruel humanity treats nature.
“When we recognise the virtues, the talent, the beauty of Mother Earth, something is born in us, some kind of connection; love is born.”—Nhat Hanh