While the people of the world seam divided into extroverts and introverts, there does exist a category in between. Also known as ‘ambiverts’, there happens to be a small cross-section of people who are a bit of both and can identify as ‘extroverted introverts’.
As an ambivert myself, I can vouch for how confusing it gets when you can’t really be put in a box about your stance on being outgoing — you are, but you really aren’t. While everyone you know is still trying to figure you out, you empathize with their chagrin about never knowing what you really want.
To make it easier for the world to understand these inbetweeners, here are a few things that one should keep in mind when you come across one. An average ambivert will probably not disclose these to you, but hopefully these will clear your confusion about us strange beings.
1. We prefer hanging out with one special person rather than in a group
We love having a few special friends rather than a large group of acquaintances. And when we’re out to have fun we prefer one on one conversations with a special friend rather than an entire group.
2. We like hanging out with people, but we don’t always want to talk
We do like being around people at times, but we also enjoy silent times with them. Constant conversation is never our parameter to judge how well we connect with anyone.
3. It’s not easy to get us to go out, but when we do we have the time of our life
We need an enormous amount of motivation to get out the door and have a great time. But once we do, we really are capable of painting the town red with our sudden outburst of enthusiasm.
4. We like to be alone, but we do get lonely at times
We love being by ourselves, but on a rare occasion the loneliness creeps up on us and gets to us.
5. We’re really bad at responding to texts
If we don’t respond to your texts, please don’t take it personally. It’s not you, it most definitely is us. Most of the times we just can’t bring ourselves to have even simple non-verbal human interactions like texts.
6. We’re not talkers but we are capable of speaking about anything
We are not really good at holding a conversation, especially if the topic doesn’t interest us. However, if there’s something that hold our attention we can talk endlessly. We also talk when we need to make the other feel comfortable, as we also possess a certain amount of empathy.
7. We make great leaders
Due to our dual nature, we tend to fit well in most groups, and often have enough empathy to understand others better than the rest. This leaves us with leadership qualities due to our superior understanding of a variety of people.
8. When we’re friendly people often mistake it for flirting
We generally don’t go out of our way to strike up a conversation and make friends, and people consider this our default setting. Due to this whenever we do show our friendly and outgoing side people often mistake it for flirting.
9. We can’t stand small-talk
We can’t stress enough upon how much we hate this bane of human existence! We either want deep and meaningful conversations, or simply no conversation at all. Nothing in between.
10. We’re in our own worlds yet notice everything around us
We mostly keep to ourselves and like being silent wallflowers. However, we’re not necessarily lost in our own world. We’re usually analysing and gauging our surroundings and people around us.