In today’s modern world, we have started focussing on people’s negatives rather than see the good in them. We constantly judge each other for the choices they make and are often uneasy about anyone that doesn’t follow the conventional path. A lot of us inadvertently feel guilty and feel the need to apologize for something that the world finds ‘different’. But, know this, that you do not owe any justification to anyone and you do not need to say sorry for the decisions and choices you’ve made in your life. Here are 11 things you absolutely do not need to feel bad or apologetic about.
A lot of people mistake looking after oneself as being self-centered. But the truth is no-one can make you as happy as yourself. And once we make our needs a priority, we can then be capable of fulfilling others’ needs. If you’ve taken it on yourself to be responsible for your happiness then you owe nothing to anyone and you do not have to apologize for it.
Making time for yourself
Time is an invaluable asset in today’s day and age. And we rarely get to spend any quality time in solitude or with our own family. If you occasionally turn down an invitation to just sit at home and read a book, or just spend some me-time at the spa, you don’t have to feel apologetic about it.
Your dating choices
Whether it’s a woman, man, both, someone way older than you, or someone from a completely different background, it is no-one else’s business but yours. As long as you’re of legal age, mutually consenting, and have love and respect for each other, you do not have to feel apologetic about it.
Following your dreams
If your ambitions feel unrealistic for others it is their problem, not yours. And if you’re constantly on a mission to get more out of life and are striving for it, you do not need to stop en route and explain yourself. As long as you’re focused on your goals, and you’re working towards fulfilling your dream, you don’t have to feel bad about it, and naysayers can take a hike.
The way you earn money
If you make an honest living and are mentally satisfied and happy with your work, no one has the right to raise a finger on you. If what you do puts food on the table, pays the bills, and makes you happy, you don’t need to apologize for it to anyone.
Expressing your emotions
While being a minefield of emotions is not exactly the best thing, an occasional emotional pouring session is good for your mental stability. There is always an ideal time and place for any emotion, and if you do have the occasional outburst, embrace it without feeling ashamed.
If your enthusiasm and positivity is the source of annoyance for the people around you then they do not deserve the good vibes you can provide them with. In a world full of burnt-out and stressed-out downers, you don’t have to apologize for not being one.
What you eat
Whether you’re a hardcore meat-eater or a vegan no-one has the right to tell you what you should or shouldn’t eat. If you love what you eat and enjoy your meals then you do not need to feel bad about it.
Every mistake we made, every experience we had, and every decision we took lead us to where we are today. If we learn from our mistakes, our past does not define who we are, and our life will always be one long learning experience. No-one has the right to rub your past failures in your face and you do not have to feel embarrassed and ashamed about it.
Challenging what’s mainstream
A lot of us want to break away from the chain of monotony and live a life that’s different from the regular 9 to 5 rat race. Some don’t want a conventional family life and some don’t want to raise their kids in a mainstream, heteronormative, cis-gendered environment. If you choose to break away from what’s considered ‘normal’ and feel comfortable leading this life, you owe no-one any justification for it.
Your personal opinions
You are an individual and you are entitled to your opinions. As long as you aren’t harming anyone you have all the right to voice your opinions and others must respect you for it. No matter how much your opinion differs from the majority, your opposing viewpoint deserves to be heard and you do not need to be sorry about it.