Empaths are known to be deeply sensitive individuals who have a higher understanding of people’s emotions. However, when they choose to partner up with a narcissist they fall victim to their manipulation and end up scarred and broken from the experience of becoming the ‘victim’.
You might ask, why would an empath even go into such a relationship? It’s simple, empaths are naturally drawn to individuals who need healing and have an urge to rid them of their negativity. This makes them get attracted to narcissists and their union eventually turns into a toxic relationship.
While empaths know for a fact — from personal experience or from observing others — that a relationship with a narcissist is not the healthiest, here are a few nuances of this toxic relationship one must know about.
If you happen to be an empath, beware of these. And even if you’re not, share this with the empath you know.
- The narcissist creates an environment where the empath is comfortable and at ease. Even though the narcissist does very little to reassure them about their feelings, the empath still gets a false sense of security from them.
- The narcissist makes the world think that you have a loving relationship but all is not okay on the home front. They are in constant need of validation and reassurance from you from time to time. You might hear them repeatedly ask if you love them over and over again and somehow making the conversation about themselves.
- Empaths end up giving their all in a relationship, and narcissists often take advantage of that. The more love an empath gives, the more a narcissist ends up taking advantage of it.
- Eventually, narcissists resort to gaslighting their empath partner and making them doubt themselves. A narcissist’s main weapons are phrases like “you’re imagining things” or “are you crazy?” and they use it to mentally break an empath and make them doubt themselves.
- The narcissist wants total control for themselves and they want the empath to be dependant on them for most things. This is so that the empath can’t let go of them even when they got extremely overbearing.
- Narcissists have a way of manipulating the empath and in worst cases can drive the empath into depression and anxiety. But they also provide them with the facade of comfort when the empath has no one to run to, so it creates an illusion that the empath needs the narcissist so as to feel okay. The narcissist also does this in order to alienate them from the rest of the world.
- Empaths change themselves in a lot of ways to suit the whims of the narcissist. At some point, the empath ends up becoming a completely different person who is unrecognizable to family and friends.
- Narcissists constantly criticise you and break an empath’s spirit to the extent that they feel like everything they do is wrong and nothing they do is quite adequate.
- If the empath musters up the courage to stand up to the narcissist they are undermined and the narcissist terms their needs as being selfish.
- An example of a truly toxic relationship, there’s no respite for the empath even after the relationship ends. Even though the narcissist moves on with their life and probably hop on to a new relationship, the empath will continue beating themselves up and making failed attempts to recover from the borderline abuse.
- An empath endures constant abuse from the narcissist and more often than not allows it to happen until its effects spread like poison and destroy the core of their being.
- When the relationship ends, the empath goes into self-reflection mode and starts to find faults in themselves. They start to think that whatever the narcissist said was right and beat themselves over it several times.
- The empath often never realizes that they were wronged. If left without intervention from a loved one or therapist, they can go on with their lives believing they were the ones who were flawed. They never realize they were being manipulated.
- If the empath musters up enough strength, they end up realizing what a harrowing time they went through. They start to plan their healing process once this realization is set in.
- After an interim period, empaths go through a slow healing process to pick them up and let them dust their feet. While the empath realizes where all they went wrong by functioning on a narcissist’s whim, the narcissist goes on with life believing they did nothing wrong.
- Narcissists are often so unaware of their misdoings that they will gladly hop on to the next relationship, or meet their next victim if they plan to manipulate them just as much.
- It takes time, but the empath eventually recovers’s from this toxic relationship and imbibes life lessons about how they must protect themselves against a negative influence such as that.