When two people love each other unconditionally, they help each other develop into better human beings. This love comes without a hidden agenda or an ulterior motive.
People who truly care for one another don’t demand their partner have prerequisites that will qualify them for love. They love their partner for who they are despite their flaws and imperfections.
Many of us are guilty of falling for someone, not for who they are, but what we could transform them into. This happens when we have an image of the ideal partner in our head and we’re striving to project that image onto our partner’s future self.
Sometimes we’re scared of discovering our partner’s darker real self and prevent ourselves from knowing this side of them. Although, when we ourselves have certain flaws ourselves, it is unfair to assume that our partner could be perfect or be molded into perfection.
Instead of attempting to change the way your partner is, why not just let yourself go, and fall for them wholeheartedly? You will truly learn to love them and embrace their quirks and imperfections. And as time goes by you will help each other grow and change into better, more compatible people.
Unconditional love, in itself, will inspire you to be the best that you can be for your partner. You will want to be deserving of your partner and want to strive to be the best version of yourself for them.
If you don’t push each other to be someone either of you is not, you’ll find a gradual organic change happen from within. If you truly love them, you don’t want to force your partner to change. You’d want to accept them as they are and learn to embrace their flaws.
If you do have someone who loves you like this, you must consider yourself lucky. And before you set on a quest to change your partner, look for what you need to change within yourself first.