Having a thought filter is a virtue which only an unfortunate few possess. Sadly, far too many people in this world fail to think before they speak and end up sounding rude and offensive.
We’ve often encountered them in our lives and have mostly ended up tongue-tied even as they inflict venom on us. We just don’t know what to say at that given moment and only hours or even days later, do we actually think of something that could’ve been used to defend our whatever dignity we had left.
Sometimes, even when we do have a counter-offensive comeback that can destroy our opponent’s self-esteem momentarily, we hold back as this person may be our elder, our boss, and the likes.
While it may be best to snap your mouth shut and keep it that way when in the midst of rude people, there also no use marinating in your own inability to come up with a decent comeback. For the times when people are being rude to you and you need to clap back in a somewhat respectful way, here are a few comebacks you can keep handy.
A simple thank you shows your ‘opponent’ that you didn’t let their words affect you. You seem mature as you chose to ignore them instead of getting angry at them.
While it usually has positive connotations, in this case, it implies that although you acknowledge the person’s rudeness, you choose to not let it affect you.
“This conversation is now over.”
If you feel like you’re about to lose your cool, you can still salvage the situation by making an early exit from the conversation. This way you keep your dignity intact and you don’t burn bridges with the person in question.
“I appreciate your perspective.”
This is a more mature way to handle arguments and shows them that you are the bigger person who will not stop down to their level.
“Why do you feel that was necessary?” / “Do you really expect me to answer?.”
This is great for putting the other person in check, especially in group settings. Saying this in a calm and collected manner adds more depth to your words and can even lead them to think about what they said and apologize.
When you know the person is too headstrong to budge, giving them this little win can cut the conversation and save you the headache. While it may not give you enough satisfaction, it will be frustrating for the other person who is left with no negative reaction from you.
“That almost hurt my feelings.”
Humor is always the high road. And this little piece of with a hint of sarcasm is just what you need to put them in their place and take the high road at the same time.
“I love myself, and I love you too.”
When nothing else works, kill them with kindness, with a slight dab of sarcasm. By showing them how secure you are, and how much their words are meaningless to you, they themselves will back off and steer clear of saying anything further.
“You always have something negative to say, don’t you?”
This simple statement can seamlessly shift focus from you to them, and can even make them reflect upon what they said or how they conduct themselves overall.
This one is sure to catch them off guard. Not only does laughing lighten up the mood, it also embarrasses them for saying what they did.
Keep these handy for the next time you encounter a rude specimen. Depending on the situation, go for what you feel suits best.