We often experience a particular problem multiple times over and wonder why we have to deal with it repeatedly. Our thoughts and feelings often create our reality and govern our lives. And sometimes they are what create problems for us.
Often we develop such a strong negative focus that we end up attracting the same problem over and over and over again. So if you do feel like you’ve been facing the same problem on a loop, think about what negative influence you are embracing intentionally or otherwise.
If you are frequently facing similar problems there may be a particular behavior of yours at play. These are some common negative influencers that make you attract problems and even the same issues time after time.
Obsessively thinking about the problem
While worrying is an evolutionary trait that is critical for our survival, too much worrying is always a harmful thing. Worrying about our problems imprints those very issues into our brains and we soon find that we’re too deeply involved in the problem to be thinking of a solution.
While controlling one’s thoughts is easier said than done, simply distracting yourself from having intentional thoughts about the issue at hand can make a difference in your overall handling of the situation. For this, we can form a deliberate distraction. For instance, one can always do something more uplifting and keep worrying on hold and getting back to it later with a fresher mind.
You could call an old friend, watch a movie, or even practice an instrument you haven’t picked up in a while. As long as it helps you shift focus and create a happy distraction, practice it until you’re ready to think about things with a clear head and not ‘worry’ about it. With enough practice, you will learn to create a distraction to the obsessive overthinking.
Acting out of fear
Our actions can affect our vibe and, in turn, alter our beliefs. Our actions often mirror what’s brewing inside of us and reflect our vibe. But it can be changed through a simple act of making a tiny change.
For instance, when we’re feeling low, simply putting on a smile can give a much needed positive emotional boost that can make us feel better overall. Our moods and actions are often in tandem with each other, hence our actions mostly reflect how we’re feeling inside.
When we’re struggling with a similar issue time and again, we tend to feel frustrated and wary about the problem repeating itself. We start to tread with caution in fear of history repeating itself. For instance, if one fears falling sick too much and does everything in their might to eliminate the possibility of getting ill, they may just be inviting sickness even more. By constantly worrying and being too cautious, they are making themselves vulnerable to illness even more.
This is because when you fear too much you are subconsciously sending a message to the universe that something is constantly on your mind and it ends up happening. All over again.
Complaining or talking about the problem
One of the strongest reasons for us to attract problems repeatedly, talking a lot about a problem creates a negative environment around us and attracts more and more negativity as time goes by. Often we can’t even help it as it is almost addictive to share one’s issues just to vent or simply dump our worries on another.
Constantly complaining about always ending up with the wrong partner, being stuck in a boring job, and so on will get you accustomed to the habit of perennially complaining. Over time, with each complaint, you add an ounce of negativity to your emotion box until one day it gets full and is far too familiar with just your negative state of being.
While it may not be as easy to stop thinking and fearing one’s problems, complaining can definitely be curbed.