It’s definitely become a cliché to say that “timing is everything,” but—like most clichés—there is much truth in the saying itself. If there really is one unique person who is perfect for you, would your relationship ever end up becoming romantic if you met in grade school? Although I’m sure some people have met in grade one and gone on to get married some day, I’m also sure that not many people have in general; it’s difficult to imagine the first memories of your wife or husband being something along the lines of discussing numbers, colours, and shapes. It just isn’t natural to be open to a meaningful, lasting, romantic relationship at that age—let alone to be on the lookout for one in the slightest of ways.
Human beings are not ready for these kinds of loving relationships in grade school, so even if you meet your one soulmate in grade two, it’s still extremely likely that you’ll grow apart before adulthood. However, even in high school there are many distinct aspects of life which can prevent what could be a real loving relationship from ever forming. At that age, parents still control much of their children’s lives, and if school and work are also part of a teenager’s schedule (as they are in most cases nowadays), there simply may not be enough time left in the day for meaningful and lasting love. Even if you meet at the prom, the circumstances may be ripe for romance—but definitely not the long-term type (as a general rule).
Life is extremely challenging and seemingly impossible for all these reasons and more, and it’s difficult to experience a genuinely romantic and loving relationship until an individual has learned how to successfully navigate their own version of life’s gauntlet first. Even in college, lack of true focus, vision, ambition, or finances can easily prevent two soul mates from ever bonding as they were meant to. What’s more, the previous problems with balancing school, work, and family still exist, except they’ve probably all become more challenging which has made managing them all literally and physically impossible.
Yet, it’s not like once both of you have started careers everything will all of the sudden become easy—especially romantic and loving relationships. But at least if you do meet your true one at this point, there will at least be a decent chance of realizing your mutual success, happiness, and destiny; even if both of your lives are still utter chaos, it may become clear that the right kind of love (and the right kind of loving partner) would actually make your life less chaotic (and much more enjoyable). Regardless, if your lives or schedules aren’t “ready” for love, your minds, bodies, and souls are ready. At this stage in your life, it has definitely become imperative to give genuine love every opportunity to form.
If you manage to meet the one once you both truly comprehend what love is—what it’s capable of inspiring, and what it’s capable of achieving—you won’t have to worry about knowing or enjoying it.
Just allow yourself to naturally feel it.
*Inspired by here.