It’s too bad that the word “soulmate” has become somewhat of a cliché to many people, because soulmates really are positive symbols for human interconnectedness and happiness above all else. Indeed, the concept of soulmates dates at least as far back as Plato’s Symposium, where Aristophanes argued that human beings were eight-limbed creatures who possessed two heads; allegedly, gods split them in half in order to lessen their strength (which also resulted in feelings of incompleteness or “half-worth”). In theory, if a human being is able to find their true soulmate, both individuals will feel 100% complete—and “worthy,” or “worthwhile.”
Enter the invisible string which ties soulmates together, and which is believed to be genuinely unbreakable. As per ancient legends, this string is tied to the ankles of human beings by the Gods, and it’s actual colour is red—as in passion, or as in love. The positive symbolism tied to soulmates and their threads quickly becomes apparent; these ties, knots, and bonds can never wither or truly separate, and as such, virtually anything is possible when they are close together as they were intended to be. So, in the end, virtually anything is possible, period.
Fortunately, the word “soulmate” hasn’t become a cliché to everyone, and many individuals (such as Julie Dillon) still embrace the word’s inspiring ideology: “Our universe grants every soul a twin—a reflection of themselves—the kindred spirit—And no matter where they are or how far away they are from each other—even if they are in different dimensions, they will always find one another. This is destiny; this is love.” Dillon closely associates soulmate with love, and the emphasis is certainly warranted.
To Edgar Cayce, a soulmate is “an ongoing connection with another individual that the soul picks up again in various times and places over lifetimes. We are attracted to another person at a soul level not because that person is our unique complement, but because by being with that individual, we are somehow provided with an impetus to become whole ourselves.” Cayce’s perspective resembles much of the most ancient ones, which seems to add weight to the viewpoint in general.
However, perhaps Linda Brady’s insights are most valuable: “We recognize a soulmate by the supreme level of comfort and security we feel with that person. That doesn’t mean that there aren’t issues that remain to be ironed out. Rather, it means we know intuitively that we can resolve issues with our soul mate without losing his or her love and respect.” Indeed, that innate degree of “supreme” comfort would be invigorating, to say the least.
In closing, Elizabeth Gilbert’s ideology seems to echo this last sentiment: “People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.”